What is the protocol for how divorced/separated people speak about their former spouses in public spaces? I am still not sure. Recently I unfollowed a divorce blog that I used to enjoy when I found myself becoming increasingly irritated by how the author wrote about her ex-husband. Her blog was written under a pseudonym, yet carried photos of her and her children and stories of her neighbourhood which would have made it quite easy to identify the ex that she complained bitterly about; how difficult he was, how much the kids hated him, how careless he was of her feelings.
Whatever we feel about our exes, ranting about them online in a manner that gives them no right to reply just seems so unfair. I was the subject of someone's not-very-disguised blog posts some time back and felt deeply hurt by the descriptions of actions that were supposedly mine, but even more hurt by the comments of this person's friends, who most definitely hadn't heard my side of the story.
So what I mean to say is this: I will never write in this blog about my ex-husband because it's not right or fair and I wouldn't like if he wrote about me.
